Another post about self care

We all know the clichés: 

“Put your own oxygen mask on before you try to help others”

“You can’t pour from an empty cup”

“A worn out car battery can’t get going in the morning”


(Ok, so I made the last one up. But I stand by it!)


Here’s the thing, gorgeous: these sayings may be done to death, but they really do ring true. You CAN’T help anyone else if you’re worn out, run down, or just plain old exhausted. You must, must, MUST take care of yourself before you can even think about taking care of others. 


The best thing about self care? It acts as prevention AND the cure. 


You don’t have to be worn down to the bone, crying-in-the-shower exhausted to benefit from a little self care. Self care is the ultimate act of self love, and when you start with loving your self, you teach everyone around you to do the same. And when we’re all loving ourselves? We’re not seeking that love outside of ourselves through unhealthy coping mechanisms. Everybody wins!


I realise that the concept of self care can be overwhelming. You don’t have to block out a week in Bali, or a weekend away, or even a whole afternoon to practice self care. Here are a few things you can do, even if you only have…


20 seconds

Close your eyes. Take a deep, cleansing breath. Then another. And one more. 

Let a smile spread across your face, and feel that warm, positive energy spread throughout your body. There, you’re done.
This is a fantastic exercise you can do throughout your day without losing productivity.


2 minutes

Take out that gorgeous hand cream that you love, but never get around to using, or, pour a small amount of fractionated coconut oil into the palm of your non-dominant hand and add a couple of drops of your favourite essential oil. 

Take two minutes to moisturise your hands and arms, up to your elbows. Give yourself a little hand massage in that fleshy spot where your thumb meets your palm. This is a great time to focus on your breathing or repeat some loving words to yourself, and it’s a great way to bookend your day – particularly in the cooler months when many of us get really dry skin!


10 minutes

So many of us are on our feet all day, or spend our days running around after others, so it’s a really beautiful thing to give your tootsies some love. Grab a tennis ball (preferably one the dog hasn’t chewed on!) and do a spot of self-massage. Rolling a tennis ball under your foot provides a beautiful self-controlled massage and stretch for the bottom of the foot. Start by sitting on a chair and placing the tennis ball under your foot. Gently apply as much pressure as you can tolerate to push the ball into the floor, rolling the ball back and forth from your toes to your heel. Roll the ball for 30 seconds and switch to the other foot, alternating as many times as you like. Give yourself a little extra foot massage with your favourite oil or moisturiser for a little extra layer of self love. 


Love and care for yourself doesn’t need to be a big, dramatic gesture. By utilising the pockets of “in-between” time, or by bookending your day with small self loving + caring rituals, you honour your need for rest and rejuvenation – and I’m willing to bet you’ll get to the end of your day with less stress and more clarity, too. 

So 20 seconds, 2 minutes or 10 is all it takes. Don’t let yourself be an afterthought, be your first thought and watch your world change.

Love Jo + The WomanKind Community X x


Jo Kendall